Friday, November 10, 2006

The Crazy Cycle in Marriage

There are some psychologists who say that virtually all marital conflicts are related to self-worth and self-esteem issues.

Emmerson Eggerichs says that when a wife feels unloved by her husband, she will begin to look at him more critically, which he takes as disrespect. Likewise, when a husband feels disrespected by his wife he will withdraw from her, which she takes as an unloving gesture. Both husband and wife never mean to do this. Their reactions cause a vicious cycle. Sometime this cycle gets so bad that the wounds are very deep.

Can you recognize when this cycle is occurring?

What have you done in the past to stop the cycle?

What do you think is the most God-honoring way to stop this cycle?

You can reassure your husband or wife that you will not be going anywhere and you will still be there in the morning.

Are you committed to work out any conflict and find a path toward reconciliation?

Ephesians 5:33
However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.


Anonymous Anonymous said...

Everyday i tell my wife she is beautiful, in fact that is my name for her. Quite often i tell her that her worth is far above choice rubies, and i remind her often that not even Solomon could find 1 like her. Our hearts are ever faithful to be honest about whatever is going on inside and communication is key. She is my absolute dream come true and i thank my God daily for her.

6:04 PM  
Blogger Stew Carson said...

It sounds like you two have a wonderful relationship. I can completely identify with the daily thanks for an amazing wife. Yeah God!

6:32 PM  

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